HOW TO NOT FALL FOR THE WRONG ONE
1) TRUST YOUR GUT. vibes are real and your gut is picking up on them, all the things not said your brain is picking up -body language, intention, mood. So trust yourself when something feels off. your body will let you know. your gut is never wrong, please don't be the person who looks back after so much time wasted thinking... I wish I trusted myself, I knew something was off. I've been there, months spent with a nervous feeling in my gut that something was wrong, there was something I didn't know and I hated knowing my gut was right. So is yours just listen. The right person will feel right.
2)STOP FEELING FLATTERED. No one, NOBODY. Male or female is "too good" for you, too pretty for you, no one is worth more than you. So stop letting people cross your boundaries make you put up with ish because you're into them. A pretty face isn't who you want to build a family and a life with. so its time to ask - Do you have good morals? Integrity? How will you raise your children? what are your goals? So stop compromising for some company on a Sunday night.
3) DONT IGNORE REG FLAGS. Some times we ignore the biggest red flags in the early days because we want something to work out so bad. Start out how you mean to go on, trust me when I tell you that if someone is cheating on you, lying to you, hurting you in the beginning those issues will only continue and maybe even get worse. allowing someone to lie to you in the early days opens the door for them to continue lying to you, I experienced this one so hopefully you don't have to. And know this, especially for us girls, people wont necessarily like you having standards, its intimidating, especially if you're trying to enforce them in a relationship you've bene in for a while where you've been allowing you boundaries to be crossed. You might even get called a bitch, A stuck up bitch if you're lucky because you're not willing to let sh*t slide anymore. That's okay.
4)...Which bring me to my next point. When someone shows your their true colours don't stick around for months waiting to see if they'll change. They probably wont. Besides, your no one's mother or life coach. You don't need to be fixing anyone. You don't need a project. You've actual work to be doing.
5) You on your own are WHOLE. no body will complete you. What if they leave you? Will you die? if the answer even briefly was yes you've been seriously neglecting yourself. Take yourself on date. Build self esteem and stop turning to other for your validation and worth. No one can take away or give you worth. You were born with it.
So go buy yourself some discount valentines chocolate and play Summer Walker Settling and please stop actually settling.
p.s you're bomb. xo
p.ps sorry if this was a bit of tough love.
(Not about my ex btw)
2)STOP FEELING FLATTERED. No one, NOBODY. Male or female is "too good" for you, too pretty for you, no one is worth more than you. So stop letting people cross your boundaries make you put up with ish because you're into them. A pretty face isn't who you want to build a family and a life with. so its time to ask - Do you have good morals? Integrity? How will you raise your children? what are your goals? So stop compromising for some company on a Sunday night.
3) DONT IGNORE REG FLAGS. Some times we ignore the biggest red flags in the early days because we want something to work out so bad. Start out how you mean to go on, trust me when I tell you that if someone is cheating on you, lying to you, hurting you in the beginning those issues will only continue and maybe even get worse. allowing someone to lie to you in the early days opens the door for them to continue lying to you, I experienced this one so hopefully you don't have to. And know this, especially for us girls, people wont necessarily like you having standards, its intimidating, especially if you're trying to enforce them in a relationship you've bene in for a while where you've been allowing you boundaries to be crossed. You might even get called a bitch, A stuck up bitch if you're lucky because you're not willing to let sh*t slide anymore. That's okay.
4)...Which bring me to my next point. When someone shows your their true colours don't stick around for months waiting to see if they'll change. They probably wont. Besides, your no one's mother or life coach. You don't need to be fixing anyone. You don't need a project. You've actual work to be doing.
5) You on your own are WHOLE. no body will complete you. What if they leave you? Will you die? if the answer even briefly was yes you've been seriously neglecting yourself. Take yourself on date. Build self esteem and stop turning to other for your validation and worth. No one can take away or give you worth. You were born with it.
So go buy yourself some discount valentines chocolate and play Summer Walker Settling and please stop actually settling.
p.s you're bomb. xo
p.ps sorry if this was a bit of tough love.
(Not about my ex btw)
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